Cultural Trauma of a Narcissist Parent Wound

Cultural trauma is a collective trauma that occurs when a group of people experience a horrific event that leaves an indelible mark on their group consciousness and identity. It can be caused by a dominant group perpetuating an ongoing physical or psychological assault on a group of people with a shared identity, and systemic devaluation of a culture and identity by the dominant culture.

Understanding cultural trauma is important for developing solutions to address suffering.

Cultural trauma can lead to a variety of mental health issues, including:

Stress, anxiety, and depression
Isolation and antisocial behavior
Increased substance use and abuse
Untreated mental health disorders

A parent wound is a type of unresolved trauma that can occur when a child has a disrupted relationship with a parent. There are different types of parent wounds, including the mother wound and the father wound, which are based on the stereotypical roles of each parent.

The Mother Wound

The "mother wound" is a theory that describes emotional trauma that can occur when a child feels neglected or emotionally unavailable to their mother. It can affect people in both childhood and adulthood. The theory suggests that the “mother wound” is passed down through generations as a cultural trauma. It can arise from a distorted or absent maternal bond, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy, boundary issues, and difficulty caring for oneself.

The best way to think of the mother wound is a loss or a lack of mothering! This is typically a deficit in the mother-daughter relationships that is passed down through generations.

The Father Wound

Narcissistic Fathers also have a responsibility for the cultural wounds of children. Like the mother wound, the nature of the father wound depends on the nature of their relationship with their children, also. Narcissists fathers can inflict, just as many “wounds, and oftentimes much more damage, of these cultural wounds as they are one of the major role models/impactors/leaders in their children’s lives.

Psychologists often suggest that the mother wound tends to be about a lack of emotional safety, whereas the father wound impacts self-image, self-worth and confidence.

Healing Cultural Wounds

While the parent wound is not a clinical or medical diagnosis, it is a factor that people struggle to address and to heal from.

Therapy can be instrumental in healing cultural wounds, but the best way is the application and anointing of the word of God—which goes directly to the marrow and bones. It divides your soul (mind, emotions, will), from your spirit, (diagnoses any imperfections therein) and penetrates thoroughly, to your joints and the marrow—which is where vibrant life resides!

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword,
piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit,
and of the joints and marrow,
and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Heb. 4:12-13.

Check out this Excerpt from a Twitter thread, which caught my attention!
By Dr. Nicole, On Mother Wounds:

“Being raised by a narcissistic ‘mother’ means your mother wasn’t fully emotionally matured.” Her main focus is her own needs and the way she’s perceived. She has high levels of shame and feelings of inadequacy that she projects onto her children. This will lead to her being highly critical and demanding. For many people, their mother is their first “bully.” However, she might act differently in public.

Growing up with a narcissistic mother meant hearing things like:

“You’ll miss me when I’m gone, You’ll regret this when I’m dead!,
It also meant NOT hearing:

Anything positive about who you are, encouragement and belief in your capability, any apologies or accountability when she hurt your feelings. The entire “emotional” energy of the home was usually controlled by her.

These children carry an “invisible” mother wound that manifests as:

🔘 Impact one's sense of self-worth and identity, 🔘 Dislike or distrust in women, 🔘 People pleasing, never loved for who they were, but for how they made their mother feel 🔘 Body image issues, 🔘 A belief they must perform or achieve for love, 🔘 Chronic anxiety and depression, 🔘 A history of dysfunctional relationships.

This insight sheds light on a challenging reality that many face. Healing from such experiences involves recognizing these patterns and learning to value oneself beyond external validation. It's about embracing the idea that you are worthy of love simply for being who you are, not for what you do, or how you make others feel. To anyone on this path, remember: your journey is valid, and your worth is inherent.” {unquote}

Prophetess’ Prophetic Insight | |

Today, there seems to be this new “humanistic wind of change,” that has come into our spiritual arena— the body of Christ; that seemingly circumvents “the” way, “the” truth, and “the” life”, as defined by Jesus Christ, as the highest level of achieving wholeness—and it involves licensed therapist who present an approach that fosters natural solutions, outside God’s ‘way,’ for His called out ones, and whose agendas can be either carnal and/or spiritually inept. (either disconnected from God or has not developed a strong spiritual connection, to say the least)

There is nothing wrong with therapy, (talk to who you talk to), but the “most effective healing solution,” and “the most operative” lifting of cultural wounds for Christ followers, (mentally and emotionally), will come through the one who uses the practical application of the word and flows in the anointing of God! When the presence and power shows up—no one can deny it! When it departs you will be transformed! It comes for a specific reason!

Billions upon billions of people have the testimony of how following the wisdom of Jesus Christ, and abiding in the wisdom of the scriptures has brought us all from sick to healed, into wholeness and forgiveness.

This song so impacted my life and the life of so-o many others as we remember the date we were delivered, redeemed and set free! He wanted us to live a dream life of happiness, joy, fulfilment and that of knowing there really is a creator of the universe, who sent Jesus to model Kingdom principles, and to show us the way back home to a living, present, eternal God, Jehovah Elohim. Listen to the words:

Pastor Mike song from sick to healed…Amazing—Song by Pastor Mike Jr.

https://youtu.be/JsE_IxOg72c?si=TqAHVZBkdY2LlMkC

Lyrics:

🎶 I remember when He saved my life |Everything before that was just a blur |I was wild, living real foul, I just weren't right

I remember when He changed my name |From sick to healed, from broke to blessed |Now I can testify that I'll never be the same

(Ay-ay-ay) simply amazing |(Go get on with the mystery) He is amazing |(That's why I believe) I believe |I'm alive (I'm alive), I survived (I survived) |What didn't kill me, it only made me stronger |You survived (you survived), you're alive (you're alive)

(What didn't kill me, it only made me stronger) |Yeah! |With every win and loss, in spite of my many flaws |You are our God, you held me down so you can lift me up (yeah, yeah) |And even when I'm feeling all the pressure (yeah) |Lord, You are the one that I can lean on (yeah) |And if you knew my past, you'll swear I finished less |And I still don't understand why my God is so

My God is amazing!🎶

According to the scriptures, and my very own personal experiences—immaturity and irresponsibility can be deadly at first, when going into young adulthood.

I remember an example in the word of God about a woman with a blood issue. This medical condition that controlled her life for 12 long years, and who went to many physicians; and spent all her living on physicians, but could not get healed. After her money was all spent going to them for help, she still had the same issue!

Note again what happened—

Jewish law considered her unclean, so she was forced to stay away from others.
She believed that touching Jesus' cloak would heal her.
Jesus healed her immediately.

Today’s child-rearing cannot be by little girl-women and little boy-men, who were/are emotionally crippled and irresponsible individuals! This mindset (child-like, emotional and irresponsibility) perpetuate a genealogical, familial pattern of cultural wounds, rather than a spiritually, strong mindset of becoming powerful people of God—made in His likeness!

Receiving the truth of God’s wisdom (word), can and will yet, set free in a moment; and continuing to abide in truth will sustain your transformation, by working through forgiveness and being able to let go of past negativity in both codependency and the healing of the cultural wounds. These are essential for developing self-esteem and personal autonomy, if you are to move forward.

Therapy sessions, psychological “homework,” and maxing out your mental health insurance benefits, in attempts at wholeness; is another form of not entering your Canaan land (promise land); experiences that will indeed, end the same way theirs did!

By refusing to be obedient and rebelling to the prepared way God has framed out for our healing; it will cause one to continually walk around for many years, before dying out—without having entered into, nor experiencing the benefits of a the transformed life God gives, of forgiveness, health, prosperity, and wholeness—(healed); mind, body, and spirit!🤷🏽‍♀️

~Prophetess NardraV

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